There’s a clip going around where some obnoxious woman decides that a guy walking out of a Quik-i-Mart is a nice guy and she takes it upon herself, being the heroine and the main character of the epic saga that is her life, to knock his cup of coffee from his hands. He’s a fairly big guy, fit, and he doesn’t lay her out across the parking lot with a right cross. It’s not that she doesn’t deserve it – she does. It’s that he is still defaulting to the male role in a chivalry system that no longer exists. This dumb woman is relying on the very guardrails she has bulldozed; she’s going to try it again, and this time she’s going to lose a bunch of teeth.
Oh well.
It’s no surprise to anybody who is paying attention that the complex system that governed the relationship of men and women throughout the ages has been disrupted in the last 50 years. Two Helens have recently made a splash talking about this. Helen Andrews gave a powerful speech at last year’s Nat Con that got a lot of attention about the feminization of culture. More recently, Helen Smith, a.k.a. Mrs. @Instapundit, just published her important new book His Side, which commits the revolutionary act of asking men what they think about the current war on the unfair sex. We people with penises are not supposed to talk about any of this stuff. We’re not supposed to talk about how society has changed, for the worse, by the domination of feminine values over our institutions, institutions that were built to greatness through masculine values.
If you don’t know the difference between masculine and feminine values, I can’t really help you. You’ve bought into the gender-same lie. But when you see our institutions failing, having taken themselves off-mission and instead refocused on emotionality and the prioritization of feelings, that’s a big part of the cause of their downfall. And it’s no surprise that women have veered sharply to the left, the left’s priorities being the opposite of masculinity. Most of us remember that Simpsons episode where Lisa escapes a girl’s math class after the teacher (who comes off as one of those harridans shrieking at ICE heroes) asked the girls how the numbers make her feel; that’s pretty much all of society now.
This isn’t to say that women and femininity are bad. They aren’t. They are a part of humanity. But so are men and masculinity; the problem is the dedicated campaign to stamp out the male part. The sexes combine to create a functional society of human beings, the yin and yang, if you will. You need both, in proper proportion. Disrupt that balance and you get, well, this current mess.
Somewhere along the way, some women decided masculinity is bad, and some men played along with this nonsense. Today, if you’re tough, aggressive, and don’t take guff from half-wits, or if you are aggressively heterosexual, you are toxically masculine. It’s possible to be a jerk in a distinctly male way; again, the problem is too much, or a perverted practice of the thing. Again, you need both sexes, properly understood. This is why you have a man and a woman, the two parts of humanity that come together and create a functioning society.
But we stopped doing that. As Helen Andrews observed, our society has gone way too far in the feminine direction, which is a problem because hostile societies have maintained their traditional, masculine focus when it comes to the areas of business and conflict. When you get a bunch of soft men, and they come up against hard men, the hard men win. This is why the most popular birth name in Europe is “Mohammed.” See, we have to help, so out rolls the welcome mat to people who hate us. It feels so good to be so nurturing, right? Resist? That’s mean. The impotent euro-eunuchs, whose great-grandfathers once conquered the world, cannot be bothered to either breed or defend their inheritance from people who do nothing but breed and take other people‘s inheritance.
Masculinity is about creation and destruction. Men build, and men destroy. Both things are important, including destruction. This needs to be explained to those who are soft and don’t understand, or are unwilling to accept, the occasional necessity of it. And when I say “creation,” I mean building things – bridges, pipelines, aircraft carriers, rockets to the moon. That’s the domain of men. I do not mean some teenage girl scribbling away breathlessly about her feelings in her pink dream journal. That’s the domain of women.
The fact is that men and women are different, something there’s been a concerted effort to not merely ignore but to overthrow by informal social coercion and the force of law. Oddly, it’s the feminine side that propels this campaign. If you track back the roots of the worst cultural trends of the last century, they all originate in a perversion of the feminine. For example, the greatest advocates of bizarre transsexual deviance are not men, though a significant number of men go along either passively or actively – they probably think they’re going to score if they show their tolerance bona fides. It’s women who are driving this big rig, the only kind of big rig women drive as a rule. It’s the women who decide that young Billy is really Susie and schlep over to the local butcher in her minivan. The invertebrate dad just sort of nods along. It’s the women pushing for men in women’s locker rooms, ironically. Imagine it getting traction if men had been at the forefront of the “Let us leer at you in the shower” movement. It would have never started, and if women right now said, “No,” this would end overnight. But for some reason that real men can’t fathom – maybe it’s the Chardonnay, maybe it’s the SSRIs, maybe it’s the dissatisfaction that comes with having leftist partners who can’t satisfy them –women as a whole refuse to reject this nonsense. And so it persists.
Orwell was right when he pointed out that women are the most eager to enforce the left’s ideologies. They’re the ones taking the lead to keep illegal alien criminals here – someone else can explore the deeply psycho-sexual underpinnings of the total dedication of affluent white ladies to keeping brutal Third World rapists here among them. Regardless, it is largely (and, often, large) women screaming obscenities at the heroes of ICE who are tossing out the Third World perverts that these women drool over.
Sadly, the same broken creatures have hijacked the institutions. Take the schools, please. It’s women who run the education system and turn campuses into conformity factories. Gone are the male role models that those of us from Gen X had. My old PE teacher, Stan Bingham – whose head was so riddled with skin cancer we called him “The Lizard” – probably fought it out at Pork Chop Hill, judging from the way he treated us. And we dug him.
As Helen Smith shows, men are undervalued, under-appreciated, and under fire. They are the worst, they are told, and when they react as rational beings to the incentives they face, the calumny only increases. Take the Great Opt-Out. Where are all the good men? Well, a lot of men who would’ve been good men are sitting at home on their couches, playing video games, smoking weed, and making wild, passionate love to their internet browsers. It’s gross, but what does it say about women that so many men have decided that kind of pathetic existence is preferable to being with girls?
There are a lot of good, conservative women out there and good, conservative men who have their heads on straight and who are out there building lives and families. But there are a lot of casualties from the gender wars. Many of these misguided women expect men to fulfill the role men used to play in the system that used to exist, but those women don’t want to fulfill the role they used to play in the system that used to exist. They want a man like their old-school dad, but they don’t want to act like their old-school mom.
Systems only function if all the parts work as designed. You can’t refuse to do your part in a system and expect it to keep functioning. When you change your input, you alter the output. Which brings us back to the Quik-i-Mart parking lot. Part of the system of chivalry that kept men from using their superior physical strength – yes, men are overwhelmingly physically stronger than women – against women is that women did not initiate physical threats against men. When a conflict arises, a normal man is not going to beat the hell out of you if you are a woman because he’ll probably hurt you out of proportion to your ability to hurt him, but your part of the bargain is not to make that conflict physical. Yet, what that dumb woman did with the guy’s coffee cup breached that unspoken agreement. She changed the rules. And she’s lucky that he defaulted to the system that used to exist. But if women keep pushing it, that’s going to stop. And it’s not going to work out well for the women.
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