There's a terrible movie, "The Family Stone" that came out in 2005. Overwrought and dramatic, it's not worth your time if you haven't seen it. But there was an interesting exchange between Sarah Jessica Parker's character, Meredith, and Diane Keaton's Sybil, the matriarch of the titular family. See, Sybil has an adult son who is deaf and gay and during a very awkward Christmas dinner, Meredith says, "Life is hard enough as it is." That comment came after Sybil said she hoped all her sons would be gay so they would "never leave her."
"It just seems to me that you wouldn't want to make it any more difficult for your child," Meredith observed.
That made Sybil very mad, and Meredith was portrayed as the intolerant bigot. But there's more than just a grain of truth to what she said. As parents, we want our children to thrive and be happy and healthy. Yes, they can do that with disabilities and challenges, but to wish for those things for your child is the antithesis of what a parent is supposed to do.
Yet that's what's happening, especially in Hollywood, where actress Camryn Manheim lamented the fact that her son turned out straight despite her best efforts to make him gay.
Actress Camryn Manheim: I always wanted a gay son. I have photos of my son in high heels, in full drag. But no! He's the only straight guy in his musical theatre company.
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When Marcia Gay Harden told me her son had come out to her, I said, "Oh my god, you are so f**king lucky!" pic.twitter.com/lCelEZeGTm
Speaking at the Human Rights Campaign, Manheim said, "I always wanted a gay son. I did. I love that relationship between gay sons and their mothers. I want to be the picket-sign-holding mom who would beat the s**t out of somebody for her kid."
"And let's just admit it: gay sons are the best, right? Right? I have photographs of my son in high heels, in full drag, he knows every word to every musical ever written," she continued. "Truly, I thought I had this f***ing thing locked up, but no. No. He's the only straight guy in his entire musical theater company. SO when Marcia called me about ten years ago ... to tell me that her son had come out to her as gay, all I said to her was, 'Oh my god, you are so f***ing lucky!'"
Gee, what happened to "you can't help who you love" and "born this way"? I've been told for years that parents who reject their gay children are intolerant, hateful bigots. Yet here we have an actress rejecting her straight son. Who laments the fact he didn't turn out gay, and who is jealous of her friends who have gay sons. They do the same things with "trans kids" now, parading around their gender-mutilated offspring like prized show dogs or the latest fashion trend instead of human beings who need serious mental health support.
She says this while at the Human Rights Campaign, which claims there are threats to gay people — not by the Islamic nations where they're thrown off buildings, of course, but in Christian nations that object to gay marriage and men in women's bathrooms. That's particularly relevant given how the Democrats are poised to throw the LGBTQ community under the bus to appease Muslim voters. Just ask Melissa Chaudhry in Washington about that, or the gay community in Hamtramck, Michigan, where the Muslim-majority city council banned the Pride flag a few years ago.
In the early days of the blogosphere, I had a leftist tell me he hoped my eldest son — who was then a baby — would grow up to be gay. The Left always does that, too: gay is a slur when it's leveled at a conservative. But as a mom, I would have loved my son regardless of how he grew up, because I never saw his life as a defining accessory to mine. He's his own person, and while I'm unspeakably proud to be his mother, my identity as a person and a parent did not hinge on how many intersectionality victim boxes he checked. And it's sick and diseased to think that way.
